As Ryan Murphy’s new Hulu drama All’s Fair, starring Kim Kardashian and Naomi Watts, turns its lens on a high-powered, all-female law firm, the portrayal of women in family law has taken centre stage. The glossy legal drama (which has been met with mixed critical response in the UK) paints a picture of glamour, rivalry and ambition. Yet behind the questionable acting and TV sheen, London’s real-life female divorce lawyers are quietly reshaping the field in far more substantial ways.

Divorce has always fascinated the public: the heartbreak, the high stakes and the glimpses into the hush-hush private worlds of ultra-high-net-worths. Beyond the sensationalised headlines, however, London’s female family lawyers are leading a somewhat quieter revolution. Some of the capital’s sharpest legal minds are redefining how divorce is practised, negotiated and resolved, rewriting the rules of a space historically dominated by men, blending intellect with emotional intelligence, empathy and authority.

“Female lawyers have had a strong presence in family law since I have been in the business,” says Antonia Mee, co-founder and senior partner at Burgess Mee, a leading London-based firm known for its complex and emotionally charged cases. “My view is that the human element of this area of law attracts women to the profession. An answer I hear frequently in interviews as to why a female candidate wants to be a family lawyer is ‘I want to help people.’ Women have continued to dominate the solicitor side of the profession in terms of numbers.”

When Mee began practising in 2001, the legal landscape for divorcing women was undergoing a transformation. “I started practising family law in 2001. In that year the law changed profoundly for women getting divorced. The case of White and White led to a change in the way the court deals with the division of capital. Until then, the financially weaker party (often the wife) had received a capital award to meet her needs. The House of Lords (as the Supreme Court was then called) in White found that there was no place for discriminating between the traditional gender roles of the husband as the breadwinner and the wife as the homemaker and that both should be treated as having made an equal contribution to the marriage. From then on judges have had to check their capital awards against the yardstick of equality to ensure fairness.”

It was a moment that reshaped British family law, establishing equality as a principle and giving women fairer financial outcomes. “Conversely, I’ve seen the demise of joint lives spousal maintenance orders and the increase in term spousal maintenance orders while children are still in their minority,” Mee notes. “This has been alongside an emphasis on the spouse who has been the primary carer of the children during the marriage being expected to return to work after the divorce.”

“In the sphere of children law, there has been a marked shift towards shared care orders over the years since I started in practice.” These shifts reflect the realities of modern family life – more equality, more dual careers, and a changing understanding of parental roles after separation.

Representation and trust

While men continue to dominate areas like corporate and commercial law, family law has long had a strong female presence. Clients, especially women emerging from controlling or abusive relationships, often seek female representation for reasons beyond expertise.

“Sometimes female clients specifically seek out women to represent them,” says Mee. “It tends to be when they have been poorly treated or abused by a man in the relationship and they don’t want to deal with a male lawyer. Or sometimes they perceive that a female lawyer will understand their stance better.”

Her empathy, she suggests, is not about gendered style but about professional integrity and understanding people at vulnerable points in their lives.

Advice for the next generation

For Mee, the field remains both challenging and deeply rewarding. Her advice to young women entering family law is practical: “Find your niche within family law to make yourself stand out. It is an increasingly competitive market; clients will be scrutinising your website profile and other online presence to find someone who will understand their specific circumstances.”

That specialism, she adds, is what helps lawyers connect authentically with clients and maintain perspective in complex, emotional disputes.

Moments that matter

Some cases, Mee admits, stay with you. “Winning a case for a father stopping the mother from moving their child from London to another part of the country, which would have adversely affected the child’s relationship with her father,” she recalls. “It was over 10 years ago when our firm was small and our client was represented by a junior barrister. The mother was the wealthier party and was represented by a City firm and a KC (then called a QC). However, the judge found that it was in the child’s interests to remain in London. It felt like the right outcome for the child, which was brilliant.”

It is outcomes like these – fair, balanced, and deeply personal – that continue to drive her passion for the profession.

London’s real-life family lawyers may not mirror their on-screen counterparts, but through cases like these they are quietly reshaping both the law and its culture. Equality, empathy and expertise – the hallmarks of practitioners like Antonia Mee – are redefining the future of family law.

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